If you’re a single mom who works, you know the pressure – and the feeling. It’s a boatload of jobs rolled in one. You’re the breadwinner, the cook, the laundrywoman, the planner, and so much more! Simply put, you’re the real-life Wonder Woman of our generation, so here are your “Super Tips” to keep you sane while being the superhero at home, and at work.
Learn to say “No”
As a single mom, your workload will always be heavier than usual because, unlike most married moms, you are left to do all the work by yourself. It’s important for you to prioritize things by learning when to say “no”.
Some things are more valuable than others. You cannot keep everything aligned at the same time. Just make sure your “yes’s” and “no’s” reflect what you value – the things that are most important to you.
If your child will play the grand piano in a school program, won’t you go? But what if it collides with a team-building activity in the office? Shake off your shoulders the pressure to say “yes” every time.
Set Time for Yourself
The truth is that even though you’re at superhero level awesomeness, you’re still a fragile human being at the end of the day. And you will age over time, become weaker, and succumb to your mortality. No, I’m not scaring you. The point is your physical body is weak. That’s why you need a time for yourself.
Taking a break from the exhausting work, piling up one after another, is beneficial for your physical and mental health. You should unplug, let go, and relax.
Go ride a bike! Try a new haircut! Update your wardrobe! Bake a chocolate cake for you and your kid! It’s not wrong to slow down a little, even stop for some time, and just watch the whole world pass by.
Learn to Choose your Battles
It’s simple: Don’t let everything drain your energy, especially the small stuff. Just let them go. If your co-workers are gossiping about you, don’t pay any attention to them. Show them that you are too strong to bother yourself of what other people are saying about you.
And oh, that officemate envy of your promotion? Your life does not revolve around him or her. You don’t need to go gaga over things not worth your time and energy.
So, you wonder woman, flip your hair over trivial matters.
Plan How your Day will Go
It’s always best to plan your day ahead. Sure, there are constant things you do such us going to work and preparing your kids to school. But, planning how you will spend your day will ensure you a smoother day as you swing from one task to another.
Before you sleep, why not jot down what you need to accomplish for the next day? It’s the best way to make sure that you will not miss any task or goal. You may also break down big tasks into smaller ones for efficiency purposes.
Ask for Help if you Need Any
Unless you’re living under a rock, or sprout like a mushroom on earth, you’ll definitely have a circle where you belong. Doesn’t matter if your closer to your friends or family; you know you’ll always need them, especially in emergency situations.
What if you caught up a virus and could not get up your bed but your kid still needs to be fed?
Keeping a list of your friends and families you can call for help is a must for you. You’ll never know when it’ll go handy.
Preparedness and prudence are your best weapons. Remember, you may be a wonder woman, but you cannot do everything. Even Spiderman failed to save Gwen Stacy.